Many times a person offers goodwill, but what they're suggesting isn't entirely accurate or sound advice. This creates a form of cognitive dissonance in my mind because ultimately, I want to do what is right.
And while it's not the crux of my decision making process, I usually determine which aspects of their their current lifestyle I admire as an indication of where the advice will lead.
Have you ever heard this phrase?
"You know what you ought to do? _____*Insert Expectation*_____"
This kind of advice is difficult to receive because it doesn't include a goal, and can also set an unreasonable expectation for the other person.
This kind of advice is difficult to receive because it doesn't include a goal, and can also set an unreasonable expectation for the other person.
I find the most useful advice comes via information based on value statements or questions. Of course, whenever someone is willing to impart advice to me, I am willing to listen but I've learned to also take it with grain of salt.
