Who do you trust for your advice?

Growing up as the 5th of 6 children was a unique privilege to live vicariously through my siblings, and observe their triumphs and mistakes. In this way, I've enjoyed access to a wealth of practical knowledge and advice which I am very thankful for. I must admit though, If I were to follow every bit of advice given to me over time, I would eventually run into conflicting advice.

Many times a person offers goodwill, but what they're suggesting isn't entirely accurate or sound advice. This creates a form of cognitive dissonance in my mind because ultimately, I want to do what is right.

And while it's not the crux of my decision making process, I usually determine which aspects of their their current lifestyle I admire as an indication of where the advice will lead.

Have you ever heard this phrase?

"You know what you ought to do? _____*Insert Expectation*_____"
This kind of advice is difficult to receive because it doesn't include a goal, and can also set an unreasonable expectation for the other person.

I find the most useful advice comes via information based on value statements or questions. Of course, whenever someone is willing to impart advice to me, I am willing to listen but I've learned to also take it with grain of salt.